Embarking on a journey of self-discovery often involves the art of letting go. Rick Hanson, in his book "Resilient," offers profound insights into how we can liberate ourselves from thoughts and feelings that hinder our well-being. Let's explore the different ways he suggests for letting go and paving the way for a more resilient and enriched life.
Shift into Letting Go
Begin by understanding that reactive thoughts and feelings rarely serve our best interests. Take time to discern whether to hold onto or release them. If you read January’s blog about letting things be, you might have a list of things that are not serving you which you can use for this exercise.
First, slowly exhale, allowing your body to relax. Allow yourself to be with your feelings first, and then let them flow. Cry, yell, or grumble with a friend, or simply let the negative emotions drain away. Challenge assumptions, expectations, or beliefs that contribute to worry, stress, frustration, or anger. Be mindful of leaving the reactive mode. Record what you've let go of, and if safe, symbolically burn the list.
Letting Go in the Body
Our bodies play a crucial role in processing and releasing stored thoughts and emotions. One simple yet powerful technique is to tune into our breath, placing emphasis on the exhale as a symbol of letting go. Alternatively, you can mindfully observe your breath, cultivating a profound awareness of your entire body. Strengthening the exhale by engaging the diaphragm effectively releases pent-up tension. Additional methods include Heartmath (maintaining equal inhalation/exhalation through the heart with positive emotion), scanning and consciously releasing tension, progressive relaxation, and utilizing imagery to induce a state of deep relaxation.
Letting Go of Thoughts
Correct fundamental errors in thinking, systematically argue against thought errors, identify and address sub-personalities generating errors. Invite any thoughts that are not serving your greater good to go.
Letting Go of Emotions
Consider embracing self-compassion. Begin by acknowledging, naming, and accepting your emotions. Take the step of consciously choosing how to respond to them. Visualize these emotions departing with each exhalation, allowing a symbolic release. Engage in imagery, perhaps envisioning yourself standing in a refreshing mountain stream. For a cathartic release, vent your emotions safely, either through expressive writing or engaging in physical activities. Lastly, nurture a sense of positivity, allowing affirmative feelings to gradually replace the negative ones.
Letting Go of Wants
Utilize methods for releasing emotions, recognize underlying positive wants and respond, rationally analyze desires and choose what makes sense, reflect on the suffering embedded in most desires.
Letting Go of Self
Observe and reduce self-centered experiences, understand the constructed nature of the self, recognize that others' upset is often not about you, reflect on interconnectedness with everything, question whether what you want to let go of is truly you.
General Methods for Letting Go
Say goodbye to what you want to release, acknowledge the peaceful awareness that remains when you let go, accept and surrender to existing facts, embrace the wholesome to crowd out the unwholesome, be the awareness of the experience, not the experience itself, notice that all experiences change.
By incorporating these practices into your life, you open the door to a more resilient, aware, and fulfilled existence. Begin your journey of letting go and embracing the abundance of life with an open heart and mind.
Need More Support?
I offer a FREE mini-course called, 'Crafting The Family You Want', which is a great place to start. It offers a general explanation of how mindfulness and neuroplasticity work hand in hand to help you slowly make changes in how you regulate your own emotions, and this will help you to model emotional regulation strategies to your child.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to sign up for the mini-course! It's self-paced, online, and will be delivered directly to your inbox once you've enrolled.
With love,
Traci
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Hi I'm Traci Mausolf,
I invite parents, and those who work with them, to sign up for my free mini-course, Crafting The Family You Want. This mini-course is specifically tailored for parents who are seeking to bridge the gap between their current parenting experience and their desired vision. Whether you are facing challenges in communication, struggling with misalignments in family dynamics, or simply seeking to enhance the overall well-being of your family, this workshop is designed to provide you with practical strategies and tools for positive change.